Monthly Archives: March 2007

Be a Credit to Your Kink

Posted on March 25, 2007 by Goddess of Java

I got quite a compliment many years ago from a member of the mailing list generated by the Polyfamilies site. Basically, the lady had never really intended to be a stay at home mom, or do the housewife thing. She … Continue reading →

Posted in The Polyamory Community | 4 Comments

Vetos

Posted on March 18, 2007 by Goddess of Java

I wanna talk a bit about vetos. I don’t like ‘em – not one tiny little bit. I don’t like the ramifications of a veto. There is an implication of ownership overlaid with a serious lack of trust. No, don’t … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, relationships | 22 Comments

When You’re Home Alone

Posted on March 11, 2007 by Goddess of Java

When you’re poly and partnered, sometimes the partner has a date, and for whatever reason you’re “stuck” home. How do you treat this time? Bitch, moan, put your hair in curlers and wear your granny housecoat?1 Don’t. Whether or not … Continue reading →

Posted in Love, relationships | 11 Comments

Embracing the Inner Hardass

Posted on March 4, 2007 by Goddess of Java

Do you have Rules for Dating? If you don’t, you should. Yes, I know, “should” is bad and evil and I’m stomping all over boundaries to tell you that you should be doing anything. Feh. I suck, I know. Okay… … Continue reading →

Posted in boundaries, relationships | 19 Comments