Comments on: Embracing the Inner Hardass

By: Bailing on Dates | The Polyamorous Misanthrope

Bailing on Dates | The Polyamorous Misanthrope — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:44:55 +0000

[...] one of my own rules for myself that a string of bailing means I stop initiating. (If I ever did initiate. I tend to be bad [...]

By: Texting, Triggers and Jealousy | The Polyamorous Misanthrope

Texting, Triggers and Jealousy | The Polyamorous Misanthrope — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 22:04:05 +0000

[...] even if they do involved blood or fire if it becomes a pattern. It’s such a button I have a protocol for dealing with it that keeps me from being unfair about Life [...]

By: SkorpionUK

SkorpionUK — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 08:47:45 +0000

I’m here via yesterday’s advice column, just to say I really like this post. I sincerely hope that you don’t still believe it puts potential dates off (if you do & want a stranger’s advice, I’ll be happy to help) – IMO, there isn’t anything better than dating people who know themselves and can communicate clearly about their desires and boundaries. I even hear ya on the “no newbies” issue: my last boyfriend was one, and I think I’m done for a while. Hey, I took one for the team, right?!

Item 16 made me giggle, it’s very close to what I have on my OkC profile. And I still get dates there.

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 01:42:15 +0000

Don’t let the door hitcha on the ass on the way out, there, honey. *GRIN*

By: Firey

Firey — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 01:36:01 +0000

*sigh *

walks away, shaking head.

By: morganna

morganna — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 04:04:16 +0000

Hi,
First off thank you for writing this.
I’m dealig with being poly. I say dealing because unlike every thing else i know about my self…this is the hardest thing for me to accept about myself. The guidelines You set out give me clues as to things that I may incounter on my new self discovery.

By: Kiki

Kiki — Wed, 23 May 2007 18:37:34 +0000

Would you object if I used a copy of this article for background information at a non-profit workshop I’m facilitating on bisexuality and poly? I’d like to use it specifically because it provides an experienced viewpoint on dating couples. I’d present it without the comments.

Thanks! I really enjoy your column!

Kiki

By: Edward Martin III

Edward Martin III — Fri, 11 May 2007 17:51:37 +0000

Nice job.

What is “digity”?

Well, you DO have pretty blue eyes.

By: Ysabel

Ysabel — Mon, 09 Apr 2007 04:37:54 +0000

Ensuring that no-one is ever, ever going to want to date me after reading that.

I’m thinkin’ this list makes me interested in dating you solely because you seem remarkably sane on your dating rules. *grin*

By: teresa

teresa — Sat, 17 Mar 2007 19:44:18 +0000

Thanks for the chuckles and good advice! Would love to hear sometime what is up with the no threesome rule, if it’s not too personal (just curious, as I adore them :)).