Comments on: On the Nature of Love

By: wolfger

wolfger — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 02:48:02 +0000

“obsessive passion simply is not love. It’s a chemical reaction.”

I’m pretty darned sure love is a chemical reaction too. Not many things that occur in the human mind aren’t.

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The Polyamorous Misanthrope » Blog Archive » Back to Basics — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 15:39:00 +0000

[...] Love. It’s about love –not the slippery bits stuff (delightful, though that is!) Wasn’t kidding when I said it was about coming from a place of love. [...]

By: Filksinger

Filksinger — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 01:34:30 +0000

Very well put. And as much as I admire Heinlein and have always liked that definition, I think you might be onto something here.

And don’t let them give you any flack for Granny Weatherwax, either. She had a lot of wisdom, that one.

By: Sasha Stardust

Sasha Stardust — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 08:37:42 +0000

Oh WOW, these are exactly my thoughts, but way more eloquently expressed than I have done so far. I was interviewed by a Swedish newspaper a week ago on “finding the Right Person” and I talked about this. I used the words “we need to de-romanticise love”.
Having a fling on the basis of intense passionate sexual attraction can work, but a relationship based on it is pretty doomed. You’ll either be in a constant state of agony from insecurity, trying to make yourself into what you think the other wants, or be frustrated that the person isn’t what you wish they were.

And hey, Pratchett rocks, and Granny Weatherwax is a true role model.:-)

By: Deb (Loba)

Deb (Loba) — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 06:22:17 +0000

Exceptionally well-said. I stand up and cheer “Brava!!” for this one. Thank you for posting it. :-)

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 18:04:15 +0000

Thanks for pointing out the misspelling, Vicki! I fixed it.

By: Alan M.

Alan M. — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 17:49:57 +0000

Thanks. Bad as sex education is in this country, love education is even worse.

By: Seadona

Seadona — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 15:33:48 +0000

I love Terry Pratchett.
It has taken me many years, and many failed relationships, to come to the understanding of what you wrote about here. I just wanted to say “Thank You” for writing it.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 13:31:28 +0000

First: I think you mean “dissolution” rather than “disillusion” in the paragraph that begins “No. I sometimes wonder…”

Second: Yes. But this one is easier for me, perhaps, given that most of the time, I get to know people before I fall in love with them. From another angle: if it’s love, you aren’t just having hot sweaty fun between the sheets, you’re taking care of each other when things aren’t going so well, and sometimes getting in the way of planned or expected sexy or romantic time together.