Comments on: I’m okay, you suck

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By: amy

amy — Sun, 03 Jun 2007 23:09:50 +0000

I do look forward to the day when fringe groups in general are judged by the same standards are the rest of the world.

Herein lies the root of the problem, however: judging. If people would spend less time judging and more time respecting other people’s decisions and taking the time to be introspective about their own, we’d be in a much different world.

By: Josh

Josh — Sun, 03 Jun 2007 22:04:51 +0000

The “compensation syndrome” thing you mention towards the end amuses me, as it ironically seems to power a good deal of public antipathy by itself. I wonder how much anti-poly attitude comes from xenophobia, compared to bad associations caused by people who use polyamory as a self-congratulatory badge, a cheap out when they can’t hold their end of an arguement, and/or a way to browbeat prospective partners.

Don’t get me wrong. When one is not drawing attention to oneself as a polyamorist, I think you hit the nail on the head. Be a general good person first and foremost, a credit to your kink incidentally. But when one draws attention to oneself as a member of any (sub)culture, one should be mindful how one comes across. And if you really want to be a credit to your subculture, call out other people when they create a bad association for the whole. Especially this last is something I’d like to see more discussion on.