Comments on: I Shouldn’t Want That! http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/06/10/i-shouldnt-want-that/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:55:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Amethest http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/06/10/i-shouldnt-want-that/#comment-142 Amethest Mon, 02 Jul 2007 06:57:05 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=58#comment-142 "Chose what I think I can get closest to what I want" I think this is a hold-over from childhood. My parents decided I should be a lawyer because I'm so good at negotiating. Thing is, I've gotten so used to knowing how much I'm likely to get, that I completely skip over trying to ask for whatever is the ideal ammount, item, or fulfillment of need. I mostly know what I want; I'm trying to figure out how to clearly ask for it, without couching the important stuff in a whole lot of, "Well, that's of course only if you want to give it/do that with me, I mean we could just watch TV instead if you're more OK with that..." type of rambling. “Chose what I think I can get closest to what I want”

I think this is a hold-over from childhood. My parents decided I should be a lawyer because I’m so good at negotiating.

Thing is, I’ve gotten so used to knowing how much I’m likely to get, that I completely skip over trying to ask for whatever is the ideal ammount, item, or fulfillment of need.

I mostly know what I want; I’m trying to figure out how to clearly ask for it, without couching the important stuff in a whole lot of, “Well, that’s of course only if you want to give it/do that with me, I mean we could just watch TV instead if you’re more OK with that…” type of rambling.

]]> By: Goddess of Java http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/06/10/i-shouldnt-want-that/#comment-141 Goddess of Java Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:46:49 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=58#comment-141 No-one changes overnight -- really. I'm still in the process of making sure I *know* what I want so I can ask for what I *really* want. LOL. No-one changes overnight — really.

I’m still in the process of making sure I *know* what I want so I can ask for what I *really* want. LOL.

]]> By: learningmyself http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/06/10/i-shouldnt-want-that/#comment-140 learningmyself Mon, 11 Jun 2007 03:25:40 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=58#comment-140 ouch, i chose what i think i can get that is closest to what i want. *sigh* i'm working on it. i wish i could just change overnight sometimes. ouch, i chose what i think i can get that is closest to what i want.
*sigh* i’m working on it. i wish i could just change overnight sometimes.

]]> By: Jim http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/06/10/i-shouldnt-want-that/#comment-139 Jim Mon, 11 Jun 2007 01:29:09 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=58#comment-139 What I want. Never settle for less unless it is truly out of reach. I want lots of things, but don't seem to get them. Wanna help? What I want. Never settle for less unless it is truly out of reach.

I want lots of things, but don’t seem to get them. Wanna help?

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