Comments on: Infidelity: A Deeper Analysis of the Desperate Housewife (or -Husband) http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/10/29/infidelity-a-deeper-analysis-of-the-desperate-housewife-or-husband/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Thu, 28 Aug 2008 03:49:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Grow_warmer http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/10/29/infidelity-a-deeper-analysis-of-the-desperate-housewife-or-husband/#comment-2402 Grow_warmer Sun, 18 Nov 2007 21:48:36 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/10/29/infidelity-a-deeper-analysis-of-the-desperate-housewife-or-husband/#comment-2402 You might not be totally at fault with your asking for reassurance very frequently, even though being asked a lot might be annoying and seems to me to show a lot of insecurity. This insecurity CAN be cured by reassurance!!! [e.g Feed the hungry bee, ken kesey] It seems as if your partner could have brought up something that s/he had said was 'no problem' an hour..or more...ago. The words that would have worked would be: "Actually, i did have a problem an hour ago, and I want to discuss it now. I wasn't ready to talk about it then." this is good positive feedback, and can lead to calming of the part of you that needs constant reassurance. Certainly NOT receiving this kind of corrective feedback can make your unease and lack of trust increase!! Your intuition picks up on vibes about your status, but the words coming from your mate aren't jibing with them. Whatcha think? Bright Blessings! You might not be totally at fault with your asking for reassurance very frequently, even though being asked a lot might be annoying and seems to me to show a lot of insecurity. This insecurity CAN be cured by reassurance!!! [e.g Feed the hungry bee, ken kesey]

It seems as if your partner could have brought up something that s/he had said was ‘no problem’ an hour..or more…ago. The words that would have worked would be: “Actually, i did have a problem an hour ago, and I want to discuss it now. I wasn’t ready to talk about it then.” this is good positive feedback, and can lead to calming of the part of you that needs constant reassurance. Certainly NOT receiving this kind of corrective feedback can make your unease and lack of trust increase!! Your intuition picks up on vibes about your status, but the words coming from your mate aren’t jibing with them.

Whatcha think?

Bright Blessings!

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