Comments on: Front of the hand, back of the hand … http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:52:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Goddess of Java http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-3467 Goddess of Java Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:38:37 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-3467 A) This was not authored by Goddess of Java. B) Just because I'm poly doesn't mean I'm necessarily up on the jargon pertaining to ALL queer cultures. I'm sure if you look hard enough, I'll get plenty "wrong" to your mind in what I myself wrote too. Get over it. A) This was not authored by Goddess of Java.

B) Just because I’m poly doesn’t mean I’m necessarily up on the jargon pertaining to ALL queer cultures. I’m sure if you look hard enough, I’ll get plenty “wrong” to your mind in what I myself wrote too. Get over it.

]]> By: A http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-3459 A Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:43:13 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-3459 You used gender when you should have used sex. I'm a lesbian... sexually female, genderwise in between tomboyish and butch. Gender and sex are not the same... for someone who is so thoughtful on poly issues it is disappointing to see the misuse. You used gender when you should have used sex. I’m a lesbian… sexually female, genderwise in between tomboyish and butch. Gender and sex are not the same… for someone who is so thoughtful on poly issues it is disappointing to see the misuse.

]]> By: Jenny http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2995 Jenny Wed, 02 Jan 2008 19:46:57 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2995 Killian, It's a tough situation, but the truth of the matter is that we can't make other people's decisions for them, nor can we control the basis on which they make those decisions. We like to think that if someone loves us, they will listen to us and come to see things our way. Then if they don't do that, we get hurt, because we feel that behavior is a sign of loving us less. It's not. Good for you in maintaining a boundary to protect yourself and your wife from possible fall-out. Your girlfriend will find out, over time, whether your concern was justified. Killian,

It’s a tough situation, but the truth of the matter is that we can’t make other people’s decisions for them, nor can we control the basis on which they make those decisions.

We like to think that if someone loves us, they will listen to us and come to see things our way. Then if they don’t do that, we get hurt, because we feel that behavior is a sign of loving us less. It’s not.

Good for you in maintaining a boundary to protect yourself and your wife from possible fall-out. Your girlfriend will find out, over time, whether your concern was justified.

]]> By: Killian http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2992 Killian Wed, 02 Jan 2008 15:43:37 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2992 I have a feeling my girlfriend may have just stepped on the wrong train, and I am very anxious about what's going to happen to her. No amount of talking really works - which is understandable - but it just hurts that she doesn't seem to want to hear my point of view on the matter. I've been fairly adamant about not having him around me or my wife at all, though. Thanks for the article. I have a feeling my girlfriend may have just stepped on the wrong train, and I am very anxious about what’s going to happen to her. No amount of talking really works - which is understandable - but it just hurts that she doesn’t seem to want to hear my point of view on the matter. I’ve been fairly adamant about not having him around me or my wife at all, though.

Thanks for the article.

]]> By: Matdredalia http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2986 Matdredalia Tue, 01 Jan 2008 23:31:25 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2007/12/31/front-of-the-hand-back-of-the-hand/#comment-2986 I just wanted to say thank you for this. These were all things that I very much needed to be reminded of right now in my life. Happy New Year! I just wanted to say thank you for this. These were all things that I very much needed to be reminded of right now in my life. Happy New Year!

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