Comments on: Presumption

By: Xan

Xan — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 15:55:51 +0000

FWIW, I went back and looked at the mentioned article. And I didn’t see anything wrong with the author’s phrasing. I actually didn’t notice on the first read what the issue was.

And I am transgender. I usually notice that.

By: DDA

DDA — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 13:51:37 +0000

Please, please fix the HTML; the *entire* column and comments are a link to some other site! It makes it *very* hard to read the darn thing.

As to the column itself, yes, birds of a feather flock together but it doesn’t mean they all believe exactly the same things; it’s a common mistake. I especially see it with new people; they tend to believe everyone got to X through the same path they did and, hence, believe all the same things.

By: Redgirl

Redgirl — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 03:51:51 +0000

As a poly person who is not bi, pagan, goth, into SCA, a gamer, OR a knitter, all I can say is, “right on!”

By: Peter

Peter — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 19:12:55 +0000

Thing is, I have, thus far, almost nothing in common with the other people I know in the local poly-group. Thus it rather annoys me when similarity is assumed – I’m *not* pagan and while I have my geeky and goth (or more like rivethead) sides, these hardly define my existence. For my polyamorous is something about how I see relationships, not a club I joined!

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 21:17:26 +0000

Knitting?

Well I got into knitting after being in a mental hospital. Mebbe poly drives you crazy, and knitting is supposed to soothe the crazy.

By: Alan

Alan — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 19:53:58 +0000

Actually, any special-interest group *does* usually have other things in common than the special interest. The mistake is in ass-u-me-ing that *all* the people in the group share the secondary traits.

Night before last, Sparkler and I went to a big jam-crowded party announced on the Poly Boston list. The mob was heavily poly — and also heavily science-geeky (math and computer jokes were rampant, and I met two radio astronomers I hadn’t known). And gothy enough to notice. And pagan. And librarian-heavy (what is it with poly and library science??). And knitter-heavy (*what* is it with poly and KNITTING??!). It seemed like Bush was universally detested, whether from the liberal end or the libertarian end.

I’m sure there were exceptions to all of these, but someone sticking their head in for the first time would have seen certain types.

The same would prolly be true at a coin-collector’s convention.

Alan

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By: misha

misha — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 18:49:09 +0000

I agree with what you’ve written here so much that I definitely feel a kinship and bond with you from afar!

By: Rob Wynne

Rob Wynne — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 13:25:49 +0000

A friend once described this phenomenon as “walking through the forest saying ‘Tree! Tree! Tree!’”