Comments on: The Final Word on Polyamory http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:32:28 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: DDA http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3840 DDA Thu, 06 Mar 2008 03:43:51 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3840 I believe you mean "Deborah Anapol" and you have a doubled "for" in "...as a curiosity for for the fun of scandal." And I also happen to think I have the final word(s) on polyamory: "However you and those with whom you have relationships agree." :-) I believe you mean “Deborah Anapol” and you have a doubled “for” in “…as a curiosity for for the fun of scandal.”

And I also happen to think I have the final word(s) on polyamory: “However you and those with whom you have relationships agree.” :-)

]]> By: Jenny Block http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3823 Jenny Block Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:39:17 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3823 Hi- I just wanted to let you know that I have a book coming out on this very subject on June 1 from Seal Press. It's titled, "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage." Here's what Janet W. Hardy ("Catherine A. Liszt"), co-author of The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, had to say about it: "Alternative relationship structures are no longer the domain of free-love refugees and counterculture dropouts. "Open" shows that even the most normal-seeming relationship can challenge the conventions of monogamy and survive, joyously." Wishing you all the best, Jenny Block www.myopenbook.com open-marriage.blogspot.com Hi-

I just wanted to let you know that I have a book coming out on this very subject on June 1 from Seal Press. It’s titled, “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage.”

Here’s what Janet W. Hardy (“Catherine A. Liszt”), co-author of The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, had to say about it:

“Alternative relationship structures are no longer the domain of free-love refugees and counterculture dropouts. “Open” shows that even the most normal-seeming relationship can challenge the conventions of monogamy and survive, joyously.”

Wishing you all the best,
Jenny Block
http://www.myopenbook.com
open-marriage.blogspot.com

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3817 Jennifer Tue, 04 Mar 2008 14:41:23 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3817 "“Catherine A. Liszt” was a pen name for Janet Hardy before she came out." Actually, it was her pen name while her children were under 18. She was fully out in her public life, but she didn't publish under her legal name while it could affect her children's stability. ““Catherine A. Liszt” was a pen name for Janet Hardy before she came out.”

Actually, it was her pen name while her children were under 18. She was fully out in her public life, but she didn’t publish under her legal name while it could affect her children’s stability.

]]> By: He http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3805 He Tue, 04 Mar 2008 00:11:02 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3805 Ask six people who practice Polyamory to explain how it works and you will get 13 answers, as they tell you how they do it as well as how a friend of theirs does it. There is no right way, there are just many ways that are not right for us. Ask six people who practice Polyamory to explain how it works and you will get 13 answers, as they tell you how they do it as well as how a friend of theirs does it.

There is no right way, there are just many ways that are not right for us.

]]> By: Edward Martin III http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3804 Edward Martin III Mon, 03 Mar 2008 21:59:51 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3804 The final word on tight-ass definitions comes from Princess Leia: "The tighter your grip, the more systems slip through your fingers." The final word on tight-ass definitions comes from Princess Leia: “The tighter your grip, the more systems slip through your fingers.”

]]> By: musqrat http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3801 musqrat Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:50:59 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3801 There do seem to be a few fairly well established "camps" though when it comes to the final word(s) on poly... Hippie poly - free love Kinky poly - multiple play partners Newage poly - harmonica virgins Tantric poly - multiple chakras Pagan poly - sex magick Geeky poly - Heinlein fans And there are probably a dozen more that don't come readily to mind.... Within each of these (depending on how you define them) though, there does seem to be a "final word" or two. And I've found that the poly "community" is really more of a loose association of people in various camps, and each potluck or party or discussion group seems to lean more toward one or another of them. There do seem to be a few fairly well established “camps” though when it comes to the final word(s) on poly…

Hippie poly – free love
Kinky poly – multiple play partners
Newage poly – harmonica virgins
Tantric poly – multiple chakras
Pagan poly – sex magick
Geeky poly – Heinlein fans

And there are probably a dozen more that don’t come readily to mind….

Within each of these (depending on how you define them) though, there does seem to be a “final word” or two. And I’ve found that the poly “community” is really more of a loose association of people in various camps, and each potluck or party or discussion group seems to lean more toward one or another of them.

]]> By: Alan http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3798 Alan Mon, 03 Mar 2008 19:09:37 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3798 > I think you meant Catherine Liszt. "Catherine A. Liszt" was a pen name for Janet Hardy before she came out. ("Cat A. Liszt" ==> Catalyst). > I think you meant Catherine Liszt.

“Catherine A. Liszt” was a pen name for Janet Hardy before she came out. (“Cat A. Liszt” ==> Catalyst).

]]> By: Goddess of Java http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3797 Goddess of Java Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:08:17 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3797 Well, Rainy, I'm in the process of designing a cafe press site for Misanthrope stuff. (I HAVE a coffee mug I'm not entirely satisfied with. I think if you search on Polyamorous Misanthrope you'd find it). If you design a "Don't be an Asshole" graphic that would go well on a t-shirt, I'll put it on the site and hawk it and you can have the proceeds from that shirt. Well, Rainy, I’m in the process of designing a cafe press site for Misanthrope stuff. (I HAVE a coffee mug I’m not entirely satisfied with. I think if you search on Polyamorous Misanthrope you’d find it).

If you design a “Don’t be an Asshole” graphic that would go well on a t-shirt, I’ll put it on the site and hawk it and you can have the proceeds from that shirt.

]]> By: Rainy http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3796 Rainy Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:04:34 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3796 Not only isn't there one, but it's kind of funny to watch folks in the poly community when they get into the "Well we're not one of THOSE people." when referring to whatever subsection they aren't a part of. As if to say, "They're weird and we do it better." And hey, mea culpa. I fully admit there are philosophies and life choices contained within this loose community of people (who really sometimes have little in common other than what they're choosing to call their brand of non monogamy) that make me shudder and think, "Oh. God. No. Just... no." and that's okay. They get to do their thing, I get to NOT do their thing, we're all happy. Beyond "non monogamy is okay." I don't really think we *need* a unifying philosophy or mission statement that brings us all together into a cohesive whole. I don't think I'd want that. If there was one, I think I'd probably run and find another thing to call what I was doing. There's a reason I don't belong to any organized religion, you know? If we're a community then someone is gonna decide we need "leaders" and no thanks, I don't want to be led. So yeah, totally, right on with that sentiment. Read everything you can get your hands on and then think about it logically and rationally and apply what works to your life as you are living it. And then live it. But don't think ti's the only true or right way, cos it ain't. Actually? I know what the final word on polyamory should be. I think I have it. The mission statement. The new ideal behind the poly community. It is something to aspire to, work towards, LIVE for. "Don't be an asshole." We could have tee shirts. Not only isn’t there one, but it’s kind of funny to watch folks in the poly community when they get into the “Well we’re not one of THOSE people.” when referring to whatever subsection they aren’t a part of. As if to say, “They’re weird and we do it better.” And hey, mea culpa. I fully admit there are philosophies and life choices contained within this loose community of people (who really sometimes have little in common other than what they’re choosing to call their brand of non monogamy) that make me shudder and think, “Oh. God. No. Just… no.” and that’s okay. They get to do their thing, I get to NOT do their thing, we’re all happy.

Beyond “non monogamy is okay.” I don’t really think we *need* a unifying philosophy or mission statement that brings us all together into a cohesive whole. I don’t think I’d want that. If there was one, I think I’d probably run and find another thing to call what I was doing. There’s a reason I don’t belong to any organized religion, you know? If we’re a community then someone is gonna decide we need “leaders” and no thanks, I don’t want to be led.

So yeah, totally, right on with that sentiment. Read everything you can get your hands on and then think about it logically and rationally and apply what works to your life as you are living it. And then live it. But don’t think ti’s the only true or right way, cos it ain’t.

Actually? I know what the final word on polyamory should be. I think I have it. The mission statement. The new ideal behind the poly community. It is something to aspire to, work towards, LIVE for.

“Don’t be an asshole.”

We could have tee shirts.

]]> By: Goddess of Java http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-3795 Goddess of Java Mon, 03 Mar 2008 17:17:26 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/03/03/the-final-word-on-polyamory/#comment-3795 I sure did, David. Thanks so much! I'll correct that. I sure did, David. Thanks so much! I’ll correct that.

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