Comments on: Effective Communication http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/07/effective-communication/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Fri, 25 Jul 2008 11:17:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Jeannie http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/07/effective-communication/#comment-5088 Jeannie Sun, 18 May 2008 20:06:04 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=103#comment-5088 Excellent article! I find it very curious no one has responded to this post since good communication is so vital for any relationship, be it monogamous or poly. The first item, 'Tell the Truth," is horribly lacking in today's society yet people wonder why their relationships fail. What's ironic for me is I was in a failed marriage for 22 years (it was a failure from the word go). The main cause of the failure? A lack of honesty on both of our parts (especially mine). Had either one of us been honest (with both ourselves as well as with the other), we wouldn't have ruined each other's lives for 22 years (the marriage stayed together that long due to misapplied religious beliefs), not to mention the lives of the two children we brought into the world. The really ironic part is after 15 years of being single without a relationship, the one I did get into (sadly, all too briefly) failed primarily because of the other person's dishonesty, something she felt was justified. Once I caught her in her lies (some by omission, more outright), all trust I had in her was destroyed. The relationship would have eventually failed because we have significantly different views on polyamourism but it would have been nice to have parted friends. Excellent article! I find it very curious no one has responded to this post since good communication is so vital for any relationship, be it monogamous or poly. The first item, ‘Tell the Truth,” is horribly lacking in today’s society yet people wonder why their relationships fail.

What’s ironic for me is I was in a failed marriage for 22 years (it was a failure from the word go). The main cause of the failure? A lack of honesty on both of our parts (especially mine). Had either one of us been honest (with both ourselves as well as with the other), we wouldn’t have ruined each other’s lives for 22 years (the marriage stayed together that long due to misapplied religious beliefs), not to mention the lives of the two children we brought into the world.

The really ironic part is after 15 years of being single without a relationship, the one I did get into (sadly, all too briefly) failed primarily because of the other person’s dishonesty, something she felt was justified. Once I caught her in her lies (some by omission, more outright), all trust I had in her was destroyed. The relationship would have eventually failed because we have significantly different views on polyamourism but it would have been nice to have parted friends.

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