Comments on: Designated Control Freak http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:55:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: karloff http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4290 karloff Thu, 17 Apr 2008 17:59:17 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4290 Without specifically stating it, this is exactly the sytem we use. What I really wanted to comment about though, was the use of the ringworld reference. nice. Without specifically stating it, this is exactly the sytem we use. What I really wanted to comment about though, was the use of the ringworld reference. nice.

]]> By: Ember http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4270 Ember Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:36:26 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4270 It has worked well at our house for years now. We have all have designated freakstations that mostly correspond with our areas of expertise, since they are what is important to us each. The division of labor is not Precisely equal, but once you have overworked yourself on too many freakstations for a while , priorities level out a bit and one learns to accept the different standard in some places to achieve relief. It is a marvel of social dynamic. It has worked well at our house for years now.
We have all have designated freakstations that mostly correspond
with our areas of expertise, since they are what is important to us each.
The division of labor is not Precisely equal, but once you have overworked
yourself on too many freakstations for a while , priorities level out a bit and
one learns to accept the different standard in some places to achieve relief.
It is a marvel of social dynamic.

]]> By: fla_sunshine http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4251 fla_sunshine Mon, 14 Apr 2008 03:41:34 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4251 I noticed that the three of us already use this system when trying to chose a restaurant. Thanks for naming it for us. The only occasional difficulty for us is getting an initial proposal on the table for someone to disagree with. It also breaks down when the person who wants something done a particular way is not physically able to do the job (or maybe only with great difficulty so that it would not be fair to them to require that they do the chore). In fact, one of the people in our family is (temporarily we hope) less than ablebodied, so we have to reach compromises between what she would like to happen and how much we are willing to do things her way. I noticed that the three of us already use this system when trying to chose a restaurant. Thanks for naming it for us. The only occasional difficulty for us is getting an initial proposal on the table for someone to disagree with.

It also breaks down when the person who wants something done a particular way is not physically able to do the job (or maybe only with great difficulty so that it would not be fair to them to require that they do the chore). In fact, one of the people in our family is (temporarily we hope) less than ablebodied, so we have to reach compromises between what she would like to happen and how much we are willing to do things her way.

]]> By: Edward Martin III http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4250 Edward Martin III Mon, 14 Apr 2008 02:28:18 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4250 You be surprised at how powerful it is for NON-trivial applications. Most of the chores in our household are handled using DCF. Most of the big financial decisions have been made using the DCF technique. ;) You be surprised at how powerful it is for NON-trivial applications. Most of the chores in our household are handled using DCF. Most of the big financial decisions have been made using the DCF technique. ;)

]]> By: Hel http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4249 Hel Mon, 14 Apr 2008 00:09:59 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4249 This theory sounds awesome, and then I started to imagine how it'd work in our apartment, and realized that things either would only get cleaned like every three months when trash achieved sentience, or I'd do everything, or we'd get evicted. Maybe all of the above! We definitely need chore division. Tho this sounds like a potentially good way to solve where to eat and such. This theory sounds awesome, and then I started to imagine how it’d work in our apartment, and realized that things either would only get cleaned like every three months when trash achieved sentience, or I’d do everything, or we’d get evicted. Maybe all of the above! We definitely need chore division. Tho this sounds like a potentially good way to solve where to eat and such.

]]> By: Femetal http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/04/13/designated-control-freak/#comment-4248 Femetal Sun, 13 Apr 2008 22:15:39 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=86#comment-4248 Excellent! I can see this working really well! We experience a lot of decision-making stress, regardless of how many people are involved in the decision. This would be a fantastic thing to try, because it seems logical and elegant. Thanks! Excellent! I can see this working really well!

We experience a lot of decision-making stress, regardless of how many people are involved in the decision. This would be a fantastic thing to try, because it seems logical and elegant.

Thanks!

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