Comments on: A Good Touchstone

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:36:15 +0000

Well, Robin, it’s not about necessarily being treated better than someone else, so much as it is about watching how someone treats people when there’s nothing invested or necessarily desired.

Someone who was nice to the waiter and rude to me wouldn’t get a second date, either. What I’m saying is that I want someone who thinks habitual kindness and politeness is the way to go for ‘most everyone!

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:29:24 +0000

I think the other way around is more important,
if a woman treats me worse then other people, I go home crying.
It’s way better if she treats me better then other people,
I would feel honored and appreciated, perhaps even loved.

By: Acacia

Acacia — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 23:44:16 +0000

Sadly I also find out sometimes after the fact that how someone treats me who’s hoping for some and how he treats me when he’s changed his mind or had some or what have you changes drastically and that will determine whether I want to continue to have this person even as a friend

By: Rainy

Rainy — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 16:25:35 +0000

The other side of that coin is not to take it personally and feel all invalidated if someone just isn’t feeling like you’re what’s for dinner. It feels personal, sure, but 9 times out of 10 it isn’t personal if that makes sense - assuming they aren’t being all harsh and chumming the social waters with your unacceptability in the sexy dept.

In addition to watching how a prospective date treats people who are NOT on the menu, I always listen to how they talk about their exes. Sure, we all have that one ex (or two) wot makes us see red. Sometimes it can be hard to be nice or speak fairly in those cases. But if every single ex that someone talks about is a horrible person, “that bitch” or done them wrong or whatever? I start to wonder. Especially if the story ends the same way every time. Because I see a common denominator and it ain’t just the exes. I have ignored that at my own peril and regretted it every single time.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 16:08:05 +0000

I have a business associate who I always liked. Until she referred to a man with a stutter as “B-b-bah Bob.”

I have barely been able to speak to her since.

By: hilz

hilz — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 13:55:31 +0000

I 100% agree. I’ve had dates that were perfectly polite to me but were so rude to service people that I didn’t go out on the 2nd date.

Great article!