Comments on: When the Metal Meets the Meat

By: Bookmarks about Self

Bookmarks about Self — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:00:29 +0000

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By: Wolfger

Wolfger — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 12:59:16 +0000

Not sure, but I believe that’s a personal perception change rather than a general perception change. Dunno… I haven’t been all that active in the community. I’m headed towards 5 years with A&B (15 years with B). Damn I’m old.

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 00:26:16 +0000

Back where there was a perception that poly marriages did not last as long as traditional ones, OLQ (My former quad) had commented on a list that we’d been together two years at the time.

Someone said, “That’s your Silver Anniversary in poly years!”

You’re right. Things do change! But I’m glad to see an 18 month old family is called “relatively new” now. Good perception change, in my opinion.

By: Tina

Tina — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 00:23:44 +0000

I’m in a fairly new poly-family (1 1/2 yrs). I am constantly in shift mode with my partners. There never really is a long period of more than a few minutes at a time (even then, it’s random) as to when every one is happy all at the same time.
You’re right, there is NO magical formula for making it work. My partners and I live with the constant notion that we are all variable and that some day, we might not be together.
Sure, I’m the newest member and I used to think that I would never change. Lo and behold, I am changing.
I am learning that it is not how I feel that changes, but it’s how I choose to deal and act with those emotions.