We all like to do things that make our partners happy. It’s part of the fun of a relationship.
A friend of mine is dating a new person. That person’s spouse had kept a file for many years on things that she liked, her underwear size and how she liked her massage. He passed this on to the new partner, which my friend referred to as the “Keys to the Kingdom”.
While you might not necessarily be all that cool on handing around dossiers on each other, it does make sense to keep careful tracks of likes and dislikes. Me? I’m prone to dive into whatever project takes my fancy with an obsession and forget important stuff. You know, like partners.
I like the idea of keeping a data file so much that I’m putting out a template here of things you might wanna keep track of with partners.
Stuff I Wanna Remember About My Partner
| Clothing sizes | |
| Favorite Author (s) | |
| Favorite Color (s) | |
| Food Allergies | |
| Food Dislikes | |
| Food Likes | |
| Coffee Preferences | |
| Stuff that really turns him/her on in bed | |
| Favorite Movie Genre (s) | |
| Special Hobbies | |
| Music preferences | |
| Things that’ll immediately bring out a smile | |
| Triggers that make him/her uncomfortable | |
| Cherished Dreams |
Obviously this is really incomplete. You’ll add to it as you get more information. One person on the PolyFamilies list keeps this in an Excel file with a separate tab for each partner. Not a bad idea, I think.
I’ve talked before about how knowing a partner down into his bones is always a good idea. This is a good start and overview.
But, I’d recommend you negotiate before handing this list out to other partners. Just sayin’.
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