Comments on: They Don’t Deserve Your Trauma

By: Pieter

Pieter — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 19:42:14 +0000

Ok, new to this place…Is this some new definition of misanthrope where I’m supposed to be nice and kind to other “humans”?

Eww. I don’t like people and don’t give a rat’s ass if they can’t cope with me as me.
People are worthless. None of us deserves or is entitled to “special treatment”.

If I don’t want to deal with your shit, I won’t deal.
If you don’t want to deal with my shit, don’t.

Everyone needs to get over themselves. Ooohh, someone wasn’t nice to me…Tough Shit.

By: Sparks

Sparks — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 19:23:18 +0000

SO good, and soooo important to the world in general, but even more so it seems when dealing with the level of self acquaintance that so many in the poly world have. I find often that that my lovers are hurt more easily than mono lovers used to be, but also that the process of forgiveness and moving on is easier. As long as both parties are being aware of this.

By: Kittyumz

Kittyumz — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 16:47:25 +0000

Haven’t you already written this before?

Same old… same old…

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:36:34 +0000

Well, I’d change that to, “Make a serious and consistent effort to stop doing it.” One doesn’t change an ingrained behavior overnight.

When I want to change a behavior, I try to put at least as much thought and effort into it as I do, say, a project for a client or a workout.

By: OtherBill

OtherBill — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:23:46 +0000

As my wife once told me (after the nth time that I did something stupid and later said “I’m sorry”), “If you were really sorry, you’d stop doing it!”

Only then did I begin to really understand what you’re talking about here.

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 12:52:46 +0000

Well, David, I have a friend who thinks that a lot of the business books on networks and interpersonal interaction get it a lot better than the ones aimed at romance.

I kinda agree with him.

You’re right, though, being an effective person is the way to have good relationships — poly, mono or otherwise!

As far as people interrupting you when you’re trying to get a complex idea across? What’s the situation? Why is it important that the idea be gotten across?

By: David

David — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 12:48:14 +0000

Hey! I thought this was supposed to be a poly blog, not a how to be a nice human blog!!! And of course so much of what we do within relationships is nothing more than what we should be doing in other aspects of our lives.

Now how can I deal with folks that interrupt me when I’m trying to get a complex idea across???

David