Comments on: Ask the Misanthrope http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/08/04/ask-the-misanthrope/ Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness Sat, 22 Nov 2008 04:59:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: jack http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/08/04/ask-the-misanthrope/#comment-6041 jack Tue, 19 Aug 2008 05:27:27 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=127#comment-6041 Thanks. It was the exhortation to introspect on the issue which made me realize that was exactly what I'd been avoiding. And thank you, too Steven (I know a Steve who would use the word "apothegm," too. How funny). The central issue isn't jealousy, but I'm dealing with that, too, of course, being a basically nasty individual. Thanks. It was the exhortation to introspect on the issue which made me realize that was exactly what I’d been avoiding.

And thank you, too Steven (I know a Steve who would use the word “apothegm,” too. How funny). The central issue isn’t jealousy, but I’m dealing with that, too, of course, being a basically nasty individual.

]]> By: Steven http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/08/04/ask-the-misanthrope/#comment-5910 Steven Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:01:13 +0000 http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/?p=127#comment-5910 A long time ago, friends recounted the following apothegm. "Jealousy is subscribing to the delusion that one can own another." I've lived by that. I have had many interactions with the green beast and now feel complete with it. So much so that I'm in a poly three with a man and a woman and don't feel threatened at all. It took a lot to get there but it takes time and energy. I think it is one of those horizons one can choose to visit and change. One of the places where the heart can really grow as a muscle. A long time ago, friends recounted the following apothegm. “Jealousy is subscribing to the delusion that one can own another.” I’ve lived by that. I have had many interactions with the green beast and now feel complete with it. So much so that I’m in a poly three with a man and a woman and don’t feel threatened at all. It took a lot to get there but it takes time and energy.

I think it is one of those horizons one can choose to visit and change. One of the places where the heart can really grow as a muscle.

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