Comments on: Ask the Misanthrope: Mental Adjustments, and Reprogramming

By: Tom

Tom — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 12:04:58 +0000

My partner desires a partner friend sister she can trust and someone to fulfill my life to give her freedom. This is more polygamy than Polyamorous and is that how it is Tina?

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 02:52:13 +0000

I have a partner that is mono-polygamous, that is, with the 2 of us and ONLY us. My other partner is open to more, as am I.
However, my Lady and I have resigned ourselves to our 3-some so that we don’t lose our Man, since he has issues with another partner, especially of the male sex.

Another aspect of this topic is adjusting to the poly-lifestyle.
It took me a while to adjust to being a poly-unit. Actually, my partners have been truthful with one another most of their relationship.
What an eye-opener it was to counter my sheltered and conservative upbringing where you hid your emotions to make life “easier” for everyone else. NOT!
If we don’t talk, and I mean reeeally talk to our partners, who else are we going to share our lives with?

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 19:20:25 +0000

To the OP – I completely get this.

My partner is monogamous, I’m not. We discussed the possibility for years and he was fine but I was scared that once I took a decisive step there was no going back. Eventually, I fell head over heels in love with another woman and realised I was doing it for real. So far (two years on), the sky hasn’t fallen in.

Talk to your partner, discuss your fears and then, if you think they are genuine, make a choice to believe them. Check in again in a few weeks/months but don’t force them to convince you – that’s not fair on them.

By: maestrodog

maestrodog — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:41:54 +0000

Win!