Comments on: How to be Poly-Friendly

By: anna

anna — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 09:54:24 +0000

good read. thank you.

By: CinemaBabe

CinemaBabe — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 17:06:09 +0000

This is excellent, I’m going to post a link in my journal to this article!

By: Kiki

Kiki — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 23:43:52 +0000

Just the link my blog has been needing; thank you so much for this gem!

By: di

di — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 13:12:54 +0000

thank you for this thoughtful and deep post. And important. I think this link will become my shield in the years to come. copenhagen hugs…

By: Edward Martin III

Edward Martin III — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 03:15:52 +0000

Damn, someone needed an editor… 8)

By: JenK

JenK — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 18:21:45 +0000

Wow, this is complete. Thanks for sharing! :)

A couple possible suggestions if you want –

If you are holding a “singles” event in any context, consider making it an “availables” event so that poly people who have partners but are still looking can attend. — I would ask myself if it’s meant to be an “unattached commiseration group” or a “availables” group. When I was unattached I would often throw a party for my unattached friends on Valentine’s Day, and it was emphatically for *unattached*, not availables :)

Monogamous people tend to assume that because a person is poly and/or involved with someone else, they are not taking the relationship seriously and thus cannot be hurt.

Oooh yeah.

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:37:43 +0000

Oh, RAWK. That’s awesome.

And yeah, we polys can be damn dorks sometimes. Guess it comes from being human and all.

Wasn’t polyamory supposed to make you all superior and loving and perfect and all?

*snerk*

By: Pepper Mint

Pepper Mint — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:34:56 +0000

Actually, someone already wrote “How to be Mono-Friendly” in response to this essay. You can see it here:

http://blog.scatmania.org/2008/10/13/mono-friendly/

That said, I think that list was probably just the short version. There’s a lot of snarky and nasty attitudes poly people can take towards the monogamous.

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:19:30 +0000

*grin* Ya know, that’s a very good idea. Solves my issue about what to write this week. Thank you very much!

By: DDA

DDA — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:15:11 +0000

Are you going to write the reverse of this? How poly people can be mono-friendly when dealing with the rest of the world?