Comments on: Comparing? Maybe It Doesn’t Help

By: Goddess of Java

Goddess of Java — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 18:30:33 +0000

If you’re using Google as your newsreader, all you have to do is scroll down to the very bottom of this page and click on Entries (RSS) and it’ll add The Polyamorous Misanthrope to your feeds.

I notice you have an LJ, so you can also get it through the polymisanthrope feed.

By: Kijeren

Kijeren — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 18:26:40 +0000

Completely unrelated to this post:

Things you might like to know.
I very recently discovered Google Reader. I have subscribed to three comics and lolcats. I’m still new.
Google Reader makes recommendations.
Today, you were the feed Google Reader recommended to me. ~grin~ Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to grab a screenshot.
But I thought you might like to know. Google’s got yoru back. :-)

By: SheilaK

SheilaK — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 07:24:34 +0000

Comparisons will surely happen if what you’re in love with is specific personality traits that a person has, rather than a holistic picture of the person.

I think some people are mainly into a narrow set of personality traits that “push their love buttons”. For such people, comparisons are inevitable because they’re always looking for the strongest button-push they can get, and all the other personality traits a lover may have barely show up on their radar.

At the other end of the spectrum would be people who don’t really have any specific preferences regarding personality traits (I’m talking about personality traits as distinct from character traits, btw). They’d be interested in each lover for totally different reasons.

Probably most people are somewhere in the middle, having preferences that “push their buttons” but also appreciating the other details that make each person unique.

And perhaps there are some people for whom it’s that very uniqueness in each person that pushes their buttons.