Last night is a great example for us. We had new neighbors over, people who had heard hints but didn’t KNOW we were poly. After dinner, our kids entertained their young son, playing semi-quietly on the floor with big blocks. They were maybe 10 feet away, and none of us were down on our hands and knees with them. They had a blast playing together, and we had adult conversation. We kept an eye on them for sure, as there’s a vast difference between a year old, and a four year old, but it was “corner of the eye” thing. Yet, each of the kids came to an adult at some point for snuggles, to ask a question, to make a quiet complaint, to get a drink…

Our kids are ahead of the game, being in a preschool that encourages them to learn as much as they want without being pushy about it. They’re socialized, have friends both near at hand, and farther off. They have the occasional play date, invite friends over, and a sleep-over is in the works for spring break.

We neither hide nor advertise our relationship. We don’t see any reason to. After all, a “normal” couple doesn’t go around saying “Hey, we’re normal and sleep together!” Why would they? Why would we? :) If asked directly in a polite fashion, a direct answer will be given. Several have asked, and no one seems to care.

They see our kids: healthy, happy, active, well fed, interested in everything around them, polite (but not to the point of painfulness), and usually well dressed. In other words, normal four year olds. If the kids are okay, the family must be okay, no matter how odd they might seem from outside. LOL

I know I am a good parent, and I believe moving into this house was the best situation for my daughter. There is so much opportunity for her here. But I also worry about the fact that we’ve moved into a smaller, more conservative community. She is 8, and already struggled with the concept of having two mommies – now she’s in a poly family! There’s no retreating from the world and she will have to learn to live in it, but where is the balance between that and trying to hand her that knowledge in manageable doses?

Thanks again, and I will be following your posts in the future!

Last night is a great example for us. We had new neighbors over, people who had heard hints but didn’t KNOW we were poly. After dinner, our kids entertained their young son, playing semi-quietly on the floor with big blocks. They were maybe 10 feet away, and none of us were down on our hands and knees with them. They had a blast playing together, and we had adult conversation. We kept an eye on them for sure, as there’s a vast difference between a year old, and a four year old, but it was “corner of the eye” thing. Yet, each of the kids came to an adult at some point for snuggles, to ask a question, to make a quiet complaint, to get a drink…

Our kids are ahead of the game, being in a preschool that encourages them to learn as much as they want without being pushy about it. They’re socialized, have friends both near at hand, and farther off. They have the occasional play date, invite friends over, and a sleep-over is in the works for spring break.

We neither hide nor advertise our relationship. We don’t see any reason to. After all, a “normal” couple doesn’t go around saying “Hey, we’re normal and sleep together!” Why would they? Why would we? :) If asked directly in a polite fashion, a direct answer will be given. Several have asked, and no one seems to care.

They see our kids: healthy, happy, active, well fed, interested in everything around them, polite (but not to the point of painfulness), and usually well dressed. In other words, normal four year olds. If the kids are okay, the family must be okay, no matter how odd they might seem from outside. LOL