I have the tendency to walk the line a lot. I don’t “manage” anybody’s life; what I often do, though, is ask them questions, pointed questions, about things in their life that get them to think about things that need to change. I give advice if the other person has truly asked for it and will listen… but it is very important to leave other people the space to make their own choices – VERY important.

Also, I’d like to add: you have the right to ask for what you want, but don’t assume any right to receive it. What you will have is the right to make your own choice after the other person has made their choice in response to what you state that you want. This is where I think poly-friendly mindsets work best: they recognize and encourage us to cultivate our sense of choice.