Author Archives: Goddess of Java
You Have to Choose
Hi Java, I’ve been with my man 9 years and am deeply in love with him, however, I’m also in love with another woman. I’ve loved her since before I met him – but only recognised recently that it was … Continue reading
On Being Out
I’m out when it comes to poly. People who know me well know I am. I put my poly writing and stuff on my CV. Plenty of people who read this know my “real name”. Given the US political climate … Continue reading
Bouncing the Reality Check
I’m in a primary poly relationship and a few secondary ones. On the whole things are great and the world is wonderful. One of my newer partners has a primary and poly family of his own. They are a great … Continue reading
One Poly Opera
Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this. It may be quite lengthy, so brace yourself! I am definitely in need of some goddess intervention tho… (Yes, the letter is long. I’ve edited for length here) I … Continue reading
Trying to Break Us Up
What to do when a secondary female is trying get the primary male to breakup with the primary female in a polyamorous relationship? This was not an Ask the Misanthrope Question, but a search term that appeared to link to … Continue reading
Where’s the Love?
I have a fundamental flaw that is of course so embedded in my personality, that I cannot recognize it. Maybe you can help. I fall in love with plain, vanilla women for about a year, sometimes less sometimes much longer. … Continue reading
A Can of Worms: Polyamory Definitions
Got an interesting one in my mailbox this morning: How is Polyamory different from being in an open relationship? I got into an argument with someone about it, I think it’s an unrealistic idea for most people. I personally believe … Continue reading
Bailing on Dates
I met my secondary partner earlier this year and we took our time getting to know each other before we played, and agreed to start a play-partnership. Then a few months ago she met a new primary, and I only … Continue reading
On Gaslighting
This guest column was written by Peter J. Vinton, Jr., aka The Prince. It’s Just A Trifle Lily innocuously asks a favor of you one day. Say, a quick phone call asking you to pick up her friend Orlando in … Continue reading
One Poly Weekend
I had someone comment on Hobbiton today mentioning that she wasn’t seeing people with happy poly relationships talking about them, but she was seeing discussion of the unhappy ones and that she was beginning to despair, except for another poly … Continue reading