Category Archives: Ask the Misanthrope
Bouncing the Reality Check
I’m in a primary poly relationship and a few secondary ones. On the whole things are great and the world is wonderful. One of my newer partners has a primary and poly family of his own. They are a great … Continue reading
One Poly Opera
Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this. It may be quite lengthy, so brace yourself! I am definitely in need of some goddess intervention tho… (Yes, the letter is long. I’ve edited for length here) I … Continue reading
Where’s the Love?
I have a fundamental flaw that is of course so embedded in my personality, that I cannot recognize it. Maybe you can help. I fall in love with plain, vanilla women for about a year, sometimes less sometimes much longer. … Continue reading
A Can of Worms: Polyamory Definitions
Got an interesting one in my mailbox this morning: How is Polyamory different from being in an open relationship? I got into an argument with someone about it, I think it’s an unrealistic idea for most people. I personally believe … Continue reading
Bailing on Dates
I met my secondary partner earlier this year and we took our time getting to know each other before we played, and agreed to start a play-partnership. Then a few months ago she met a new primary, and I only … Continue reading
Package Deals in Polyamory
For the record, this letter was a bit longer. I’ve edited it for brevity, but I hope that I kept the salient points: For almost half a year now, I’ve been involved in a polyamorous relationship with a married man. … Continue reading
Homewrecker or Confused?
I just started looking at this blog a few days ago and I love it. I also entered a poly relationship a few days ago… and I’m slightly less sure about that. I am dating a man who is also … Continue reading
Being Informed and Dirty Little Secrets in Polyamory
I wanted to message you (as I’m sure most people who message you do) about a poly/open relationship I’m in. As for the background, I’ve been separated for about 11 months and have been seeing someone for the last two … Continue reading
Polyamory, STDs and Partner Communication
Dear Goddess of Java, I was recently tested for all STDs and found, to my delight, that I have no STDs. I felt relief and actually thought about calling someone to tell them… but then I thought, whom should I … Continue reading
I Feel Like My Life is Crashing
I am a lesbian. I am married and in a non-romantic relationship with my wife as we raise our kids. We are friends, that is all. I started dating another woman and could not give her enough because of my … Continue reading