Category Archives: Ask the Misanthrope

Rule One*

Posted on March 28, 2013 by Goddess of Java

This was an ask on my Tumblr, but I just had to repost it. Hi there! I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment. I’m in a long term poly relationship (together 6 years, poly for 1.5) I’ve … Continue reading →

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How to Ask People Out

Posted on February 5, 2013 by Goddess of Java

Do you have any advice for a guy in a non-monogamous relationship who doesn’t know how to ask people out? I mean, I know how to—I’m in a relationship—but I have no experience in poly things. My ladyfriend has the … Continue reading →

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Relationship Broken, Add More People Doesn’t Work

Posted on December 11, 2012 by Goddess of Java

So, me (26 F) and my partner (37 M) have been in what we call a monogamish relationship pretty much since the beginning four years ago. I’ve slept with many, many dudes, and he’s also had the odd sexual adventure. … Continue reading →

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Fortune Favors the Bold

Posted on November 27, 2012 by Goddess of Java

I’m having some trouble. I’m a happily married man, with a wife of 8 years, and we’ve been polyamorous for nearly two years now. So far, though, it’s only resulted in a very close friendship of mine becoming, well, a … Continue reading →

Posted in Ask the Misanthrope, polyamory 101 | 4 Comments

Transitioning From Triad to V

Posted on November 20, 2012 by Goddess of Java

I am madly in love with one of my partners. We have been together for a year and a half. He has been married to a woman for 19 years whom I love dearly. They were not poly at the … Continue reading →

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Jack and Jill

Posted on November 6, 2012 by Goddess of Java

About a year ago I met a man whom I had an immediate connection with (I still to this day cannot explain what made me feel so comfortable with him right off the bat as I am generally a reserved … Continue reading →

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Never Promised Monogamy

Posted on October 30, 2012 by Goddess of Java

So a couple of months ago I met man online who advertised himself as being in an open marriage. He lives far away. We hit it off in a huge way, and a month later he came to visit me. … Continue reading →

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How to Rebuild Trust

Posted on October 23, 2012 by Goddess of Java

I stumbled across your blog while searching for resources on polyamory and STDs. Another question that someone asked was like what happened to me and encouraged me to talk to someone. My wife and I have been together for a … Continue reading →

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When Does it Stop Hurting

Posted on October 16, 2012 by Goddess of Java

I’ve just met a really great guy. We’ve been dating for about a few months now, and every day, I fall more for him in little ways. I know I should just assume this is the honeymoon phase, but it … Continue reading →

Posted in Ask the Misanthrope, Love | 7 Comments

Bait and Switch in Polyamory

Posted on October 4, 2012 by Goddess of Java

I don’t know if I’m not really poly or just got myself into a bad situation my first time out. I met a man who said he was poly, and I liked him. I thought about it really long and … Continue reading →

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