Category Archives: Ask the Misanthrope
O.V.P and Passive-Aggressiveness
The wife and i agreed to try an open relationship. We agreed on the rules of engagement: use a condom, be discreet, and don’t put one above the other. But when I set plans to go out with the my … Continue reading
Love and Time
A faithful reader asks: My partner, Bill, and I have been together for 3 years. During that time I’ve had 5 other relationships, and he has had one continuous relationship for the past 2 years. Last fall, I moved across … Continue reading
Texting, Triggers and Jealousy
From a reader; My boyfriend, Justin, and I have been dating for about a year and a half and became poly about two months ago when I met another man and fell for him. It has been great; my … Continue reading
Jealousy and Abandonment Issues in Polyamory
Mike wrote in to ask: I’ve been in an open relationship for almost two years now. We’re very much in love and have, generally, good and open communication. I have been monogamous but philosophically open to poly before I … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Can a Lesbian Have a Dom/Sub Relationship?
A Reader Asks: I’ve found your site within the last few weeks and I have a question. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years now, and am currently exploring a dom/sub relationship with her. I … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Where Can We Find A Party Favor
Hello. My husband and I are young and take very good care of ourselves. Where can we find a bicurious, bisexual, or lesbian woman to explore with but create no attachments. Just for exploring my sexuality. You’d probably find your … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Not Poly Enough
A Reader Asks: I have been having a lot of problems lately; I know that the majority of the issues I’m having are PTSD-related, but some are related to my 6-month old poly relationship. I tried to join my local … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Polyamorous Lie Detector?
A Reader Asks: My boyfriend told me that he was polyamorous two years ago, and I really liked him and I also liked the idea. I was the first to ask him if I could see another person, but he … Continue reading
Intimate Connections and Really Hot Sex
It’s time to reach into the Goddess of Java’s mailbag and see what strange and wonderful questions come up. It seems that I have found myself in a crossroads about whether it is in fact possible to find people who … Continue reading
19 and Perfect Boobs
My primary partner and I had been togetehr and monogamous for 7 years. One day she started chatting up and exbf form 15 years back, went and saw him, kissed but nothing else, and talked on a daily basis. I … Continue reading