Category Archives: Ask the Misanthrope
Jealousy and Abandonment Issues in Polyamory
Mike wrote in to ask: I’ve been in an open relationship for almost two years now. We’re very much in love and have, generally, good and open communication. I have been monogamous but philosophically open to poly before I … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Can a Lesbian Have a Dom/Sub Relationship?
A Reader Asks: I’ve found your site within the last few weeks and I have a question. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years now, and am currently exploring a dom/sub relationship with her. I … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Where Can We Find A Party Favor
Hello. My husband and I are young and take very good care of ourselves. Where can we find a bicurious, bisexual, or lesbian woman to explore with but create no attachments. Just for exploring my sexuality. You’d probably find your … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Not Poly Enough
A Reader Asks: I have been having a lot of problems lately; I know that the majority of the issues I’m having are PTSD-related, but some are related to my 6-month old poly relationship. I tried to join my local … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Polyamorous Lie Detector?
A Reader Asks: My boyfriend told me that he was polyamorous two years ago, and I really liked him and I also liked the idea. I was the first to ask him if I could see another person, but he … Continue reading
Intimate Connections and Really Hot Sex
It’s time to reach into the Goddess of Java’s mailbag and see what strange and wonderful questions come up. It seems that I have found myself in a crossroads about whether it is in fact possible to find people who … Continue reading
19 and Perfect Boobs
My primary partner and I had been togetehr and monogamous for 7 years. One day she started chatting up and exbf form 15 years back, went and saw him, kissed but nothing else, and talked on a daily basis. I … Continue reading
Want to be valued? Value YOU!
I need advice. My girl and I began exploring the “lifestyle” about 2 years ago. At some point mid way, I discovered that I was having nervousness block my performance, in my opinion because many encounters seemed rushed. I talked … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Coming Out as Poly
Dear Polyamorous Misanthrope, I recently started a relationship with a person who has never been poly before. We’ve been dating for a little over a month and things have gotten really emotionally intimate, really fast. It’s wonderful and we’re both … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Confused and Need Help
This letter is an edited highlights version – just for clarity’s sake: I am attracted to the idea of polyamory for the spiritual implications, perhaps even more so than the physical ones. I feel it can help us to grow … Continue reading