Category Archives: boundaries

Being Used

Relationships can be good and fulfilling things — no doubt about it. They can bring joy, help and mutual comfort to all involved. However, there is a problem. People are people. Sometimes they’re just fine people. Sometimes they’re rescuers. Sometimes … Continue reading

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I IZ IN UR EMAIL ANSWERING UR QUESTIONZ

Greetings Misanthrope, I have a difficult problem and I am not sure how to go about dealing with it. I live in a quad arrangement with my husband and another couple but I do not have a sexual relationship with … Continue reading

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H.A.L.T

I ran across the acronym H.A.L.T for a reminder in times of stress or distress on the Flylady mailing list. Basically, it runs like this. Self: I feel like crap. I’m ruminating. I’m upset, I hate the world (or myself, … Continue reading

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Decluttering Your Emotional Space

This week’s column is by guest writer, Jenny Ford. Forget those piles of paper, bulging closets, and kitchen cabinets full of lidless plastic containers. The real stressor in life is not physical clutter, it’s emotional clutter. Just as the physical … Continue reading

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Embracing the Inner Hardass

Do you have Rules for Dating? If you don’t, you should. Yes, I know, “should” is bad and evil and I’m stomping all over boundaries to tell you that you should be doing anything. Feh. I suck, I know. Okay… … Continue reading

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Boundaries

I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt that each and every one of the relationship problems I have ever had can be traced to one single thing. Now me? I’m usually suspicious of the “silver bullet” or the … Continue reading

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