Category Archives: Communication
Want to be valued? Value YOU!
I need advice. My girl and I began exploring the “lifestyle” about 2 years ago. At some point mid way, I discovered that I was having nervousness block my performance, in my opinion because many encounters seemed rushed. I talked … Continue reading
Three Conversations for Polyamorous Intimacy
Let’s talk about relationship conversations for a moment. When you’re polyamorous, you’re going to have them more often just because you have more of them[1]. There are different conversations you will often want to have and they’re used for different … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Left Out
A New Reader Asks: I have been seeing a guy,living and working with him for about 4 months. He introduced me to the idea of polyamory. I had honestly never heard of it, but the more I learned the more … Continue reading
I Thought We Were POLY
Polyamory is about love and intimacy, right? So poly people are the lovingest, mostest intimate cuddlemuffins out there. If you find someone wants to keep the slightest bit of themselves to themselves, they’re not really poly. People that need space … Continue reading
Respectful Communication and Mind-Reading
Not too long ago, I was in the living room working idly on some material. The Prince was in his room on a teleconference with a client. Our son was wandering through the house as he often does, waving a … Continue reading
The Questionable Content of Unspoken Assumptions
I’m a big fan of the online strip Questionable Content. One of the more recent strips has a couple of characters have a discussion about sex and relationships that I found interesting. For those poor souls who have not yet … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Telling the Truth
My wife and I have been looking for a long time to find a person or couple we could date. Not too long ago, we did start going out with a couple. The problem is, while I like them, I … Continue reading
Don’t Let the Dishes Get Crusty
“Honey, we’ve got to talk.” Do you hear this phrase often enough to make your blood run cold? Do most of your relationship talks start this way? Does this usually preface a several-hour discussion? If your relationships’ communication styles rely … Continue reading
What I Wanna Know!
One of the big things that often becomes a serious Talking Point in polyamorous relationships is the nature and detail of personal and emotional disclosure — most specifically, disclosure of actions/feelings between your, your loves and your loves’ loves. This … Continue reading
Process Percentage
This guest column is by Edward Martin, III. I’m tired of the whole “communicate, communicate, communicate” mantra. Oh sure, I’m all for making sure you communicate with your partners, but it just doesn’t have to be some long and torturous … Continue reading