Category Archives: Guest Column
On Gaslighting
This guest column was written by Peter J. Vinton, Jr., aka The Prince. It’s Just A Trifle Lily innocuously asks a favor of you one day. Say, a quick phone call asking you to pick up her friend Orlando in … Continue reading
Patient Griselda, or, Minding the Gap
Mama Java is lounging on the beach right now. Well, okay RIGHT NOW, I’m probably getting sunscreen on squirming little children, collecting beach chairs and making sure everyone has their towels, but I am at the beach this week. Here’s … Continue reading
Tips To Couples Looking to Add an Additional Person Into Their Relationship
This column is written by guest author Holly Bernabe. She wrote it to try to help people posting sex or relationship ads to polyamorous discussion list why the list reaction tended to be less than stellar, and to help them … Continue reading
Perspective: Grab Some — it’s FREE!
This guest column is by Edward Martin, III This is something I don’t understand. If I say “There’s no such thing as a white pigeon” and someone shows me a white pigeon, I have to admit I’m wrong, right? I … Continue reading
The Care and Feeding of Unicorns
Mama Java is off visiting, so Cinema Babe has generously consented to fill in with this column. It All Begins With A Personal Ad “Hi, we’re Dot and Jim, a friendly, stable, professional couple who would like to meet a … Continue reading
I Have Something to Tell You
This week’s column is a guest piece by Edward Martin, III. How do I “break the news” I’m poly? This question rolls around a lot, especially on boards and meetings where there’s a lot of new folks, or folks that … Continue reading
Enemies and Allies
This guest column was written by Edward Martin, III. A lot of people seem to have a lot of trouble talking with their partners. Now, sometimes, I can understand this. Some topics are embarrassing, or awkward or uncomfortable. Some topics … Continue reading
How to be Poly-Friendly
This guest column is by Pepper Mint. How can a monogamous person be poly-friendly? I originally encountered this question in a livejournal conversation, and followed up with a quick brainstormed list. The following list is a rewrite that expands on … Continue reading
Process Percentage
This guest column is by Edward Martin, III. I’m tired of the whole “communicate, communicate, communicate” mantra. Oh sure, I’m all for making sure you communicate with your partners, but it just doesn’t have to be some long and torturous … Continue reading
Front of the hand, back of the hand …
This guest column is by Jenny Ford. Polyamory ain’t all beer and skittles. Like your hand, it has two sides, and they can’t be separated. For every wonderful advantage to being polyamorous, there is a corresponding down side, and some … Continue reading