Category Archives: Guest Column

Jurassic Park Secondary

This week’s column is a guest column by Jessica Burde. Ladies, gentlemen and assorted gender identities, today I would like to address one very important point of natural law. Where there is PIV sex, there will be pregnancies. Period, dot, … Continue reading

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Unbundling

Guest column by Vrimj today! Suggestion for Married Couples moving from monogamy to polyamory: Unbundle. A lot of the newbie mistakes that hurt everyone in the poly world come from married couples who consider themselves a package deal, in part … Continue reading

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On Gaslighting

This guest column was written by Peter J. Vinton, Jr., aka The Prince. It’s Just A Trifle Lily innocuously asks a favor of you one day.  Say, a quick phone call asking you to pick up her friend Orlando in … Continue reading

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Patient Griselda, or, Minding the Gap

Mama Java is lounging on the beach right now.  Well, okay RIGHT NOW, I’m probably getting sunscreen on squirming little children, collecting beach chairs and making sure everyone has their towels, but I am at the beach this week.  Here’s … Continue reading

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Tips To Couples Looking to Add an Additional Person Into Their Relationship

This column is written by guest author Holly Bernabe.  She wrote it to try to help people posting sex or relationship ads to polyamorous discussion list why the list reaction tended to be less than stellar, and to help them … Continue reading

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Perspective: Grab Some — it’s FREE!

This guest column is by Edward Martin, III This is something I don’t understand. If I say “There’s no such thing as a white pigeon” and someone shows me a white pigeon, I have to admit I’m wrong, right? I … Continue reading

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The Care and Feeding of Unicorns

Mama Java is off visiting, so Cinema Babe has generously consented to fill in with this column. It All Begins With A Personal Ad “Hi, we’re Dot and Jim, a friendly, stable, professional couple who would like to meet a … Continue reading

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I Have Something to Tell You

This week’s column is a guest piece by Edward Martin, III. How do I “break the news” I’m poly? This question rolls around a lot, especially on boards and meetings where there’s a lot of new folks, or folks that … Continue reading

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Enemies and Allies

This guest column was written by Edward Martin, III. A lot of people seem to have a lot of trouble talking with their partners. Now, sometimes, I  can understand this. Some topics are embarrassing, or awkward or uncomfortable. Some topics … Continue reading

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How to be Poly-Friendly

This guest column is by Pepper Mint. How can a monogamous person be poly-friendly? I originally encountered this question in a livejournal conversation, and followed up with a quick brainstormed list. The following list is a rewrite that expands on … Continue reading

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