Category Archives: Love
NRE for Everyone!
You’re in a happy triad. You and your partners do date from time to time, but for the most part, you have a stable, well-run home. Your routine is down pat. You all know your roles in the home and … Continue reading
Not at All Costs: there are times when you can keep working on the relationship
I’ve posted a series of columns lately where there is a gentle (or not so gentle) encouragement to get the hell out of a relationship. I bet you think this means that if there’s the slightest problem, I think you … Continue reading
Just Testing a Feature, Move Along
Playing with blog settings and testing a feature. But, to give it poly-relevant content: It’s about love. Really, no kidding. If you’re having a problem with your partner(s), all of you need to check Rule One again. Rock on.
When Does it Stop Hurting
I’ve just met a really great guy. We’ve been dating for about a few months now, and every day, I fall more for him in little ways. I know I should just assume this is the honeymoon phase, but it … Continue reading
Keeping it Real
I’ve been slow in answering letters lately. I’ve got lots of material for lots of columns and I’m noticing a pattern. Lack of love. So much of the advice I give is crap unless you proceed from the assumption that … Continue reading
Where’s the Love?
I have a fundamental flaw that is of course so embedded in my personality, that I cannot recognize it. Maybe you can help. I fall in love with plain, vanilla women for about a year, sometimes less sometimes much longer. … Continue reading
Can a Polyamorous Marriage Last?
Today, my husband and I have been married twenty years. Now, unlike a lot of married couples, we never were monogamous. It’s part of the reason why I choke when people ask how to transition from a monogamous relationship to … Continue reading
Comparing? Maybe It Doesn’t Help
That was the best sex/meal/evening I ever had! Ever said anything like that? Ever said anything like that to a lover what wasn’t included in on said activity? What kind of reaction did you get? Maybe none. Maybe one that … Continue reading
Preachin’ to the Choir
In an unusual and unscheduled post, I’d encourage people to check this out. It’s quite eloquent. If it ain’t about love… If you’re having a hard time with the video, the text is here.
A Good Touchstone
We all have our standards for choosing loves. That’s cool. We should. I’d like to share one of mine: How does he treat someone he isn’t interested in gettin’ busy with? If there’s a significant gap in kindness, courtesy or … Continue reading