Category Archives: Love
A Blow-Job, a Cookie, and a Nap
“My idea is simple- everyone needs a blow job, a cookie, and a nap. If that happens, world peace will ensue.” — The Mad Pirate Bippy I like pithy statements, as they often illustrate principles. The Blow-job, cookie and nap … Continue reading
Meaningless Sex
Sex is only meaningful when you’re into having a long-term, committed relationship, right? It’s what polyamory is about, right? Committed relationships. We frown on people who “just have sex”. That, my dears, is so much horse elbows. First of all, … Continue reading
The Emotional Bank Account
I used the expression in my Vetos article about the Emotional Bank Account, and would like to explore the concept a little more in depth. The Emotional Bank Account is the level of trust you and your partner(s) have between … Continue reading
When to Say Yea!
I’ve gotten some pokes from various sources saying that I’ve posted a lot about what to run away from, and what to avoid, but what about turning it around? What do you say “yes” to? Mutual support of each others’ … Continue reading
On the Nature of Love
The Western concept of romantic love is appalling and causes a lot of damage. There are days when I want to go back in time and kick Eleanor of Aquitaine’s ass. [1] Here are the ideas that I see are … Continue reading
When You’re Home Alone
When you’re poly and partnered, sometimes the partner has a date, and for whatever reason you’re “stuck” home. How do you treat this time? Bitch, moan, put your hair in curlers and wear your granny housecoat?1 Don’t. Whether or not … Continue reading
Help! Someone I Love is Poly!
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050430.html I want to thank a recent reader of the PolyFamilies site for the idea for this column. I’ve been a bit blocked for a month or so, trying to come up with something good to write, … Continue reading
Heartbreak
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050122.html I am desperately worried for the poly community. We’re supposed to be this group of people dedicated to love. And yet – I see more pain, heartache, broken dreams, cruelty and what have you going on … Continue reading
Who’s Your Primary?
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050108.html Quick, name your primary! Did you name your spouse? A live-in lover? Someone you don’t live with that you are deeply in love with? What about yourself? No, I’m dead serious. You are the only person … Continue reading
Choice
Originally posted at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041023.html I’ve run across a few items in discussion lists lately where people who are experimenting with polyamory have been bemoaning the fact that they can’t “get with the program”, or that they can’t get rid of … Continue reading