Category Archives: polyamory 101
Trying to Break Us Up
What to do when a secondary female is trying get the primary male to breakup with the primary female in a polyamorous relationship? This was not an Ask the Misanthrope Question, but a search term that appeared to link to … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Polyamorous Lie Detector?
A Reader Asks: My boyfriend told me that he was polyamorous two years ago, and I really liked him and I also liked the idea. I was the first to ask him if I could see another person, but he … Continue reading
“How Can I Tell if I’m Polyamorous?” is the Wrong Question
I ran across a post not too long ago asking how one could know if one were polyamorous or not. I break a bit with a lot of the poly community who see being polyamorous as something of a genetic … Continue reading
My Wife Doesn’t Understand Me
“I’m in a mid-life crisis, I guess. The passion is out of my life and I’m looking for something more. My wife doesn’t understand me.” Any polyamorous person on a dating site is almost sure to get a message like … Continue reading
Handling Jealousy: How to Fuck Up
I’ve been seeing more than the usual amount of discussion about jealousy on various poly boards lately, so I figure this might be a little topical to people. I have pulled out of the air the Definitive[1] Five-Point List of … Continue reading
Patient Griselda, or, Minding the Gap
Mama Java is lounging on the beach right now. Well, okay RIGHT NOW, I’m probably getting sunscreen on squirming little children, collecting beach chairs and making sure everyone has their towels, but I am at the beach this week. Here’s … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Coming Out as Poly
Dear Polyamorous Misanthrope, I recently started a relationship with a person who has never been poly before. We’ve been dating for a little over a month and things have gotten really emotionally intimate, really fast. It’s wonderful and we’re both … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Confused and Need Help
This letter is an edited highlights version – just for clarity’s sake: I am attracted to the idea of polyamory for the spiritual implications, perhaps even more so than the physical ones. I feel it can help us to grow … Continue reading
Ask the Misanthrope: Jealousy?
A Faithful Reader Asks: My husband and I have been discussing polyamory over the past couple months. I feel comfortable with the idea, and I know we communicate very well with each other. I am actually concerned about how my … Continue reading
We’ve Done It, Now Let Me Fix Your Life
There’s a popular situation in sitcoms and romantic comedies. There’ll be this couple — one of them[1] being presented as having their life a bit out of order. The couple sleeps together, and then the more together partner starts getting … Continue reading