Category Archives: polyamory 101
Tips To Couples Looking to Add an Additional Person Into Their Relationship
This column is written by guest author Holly Bernabe. She wrote it to try to help people posting sex or relationship ads to polyamorous discussion list why the list reaction tended to be less than stellar, and to help them … Continue reading
Poly Parenting 101
One of the sad facts of being an alternative lifestyler of any sort is in this political climate, you’re liable to be labeled a dangerous pervert. For the most part, it’s not actually illegal to be a pervert or anything, … Continue reading
Coming Out for the Holidays
The holiday season is fast approaching and many people often wonder how to handle alternative lifestyles such as polyamory and holidays. I’d like to offer a list of Useful Tips that will help with the Cool Kids/Backward Family interface. … Continue reading
Ten Tips to Great Poly Relationships
This is my top ten things you can do for great multiple relationships. 1. Don’t try to be a “good” poly person. If you’ve been reading online material a lot, you may have developed an idea of what a good … Continue reading
I Thought We Were POLY
Polyamory is about love and intimacy, right? So poly people are the lovingest, mostest intimate cuddlemuffins out there. If you find someone wants to keep the slightest bit of themselves to themselves, they’re not really poly. People that need space … Continue reading
Help Me With My Homework
I was recently asked if I’d consent to an interview, but the questions were pretty good and basic, so I’m posting them here: 1. What are common misconceptions you have found with polyamory? Probably the most common is that partners … Continue reading
Does It WORK?
In studying the alternative lifestyles and communities of the US in the past 200-odd years, there has been an attempt to judge whether or not these communities are good. That’s fine in the context of a rigid social system or … Continue reading
How Do I Meet People?
Okay, either you’re single or you’ve got your primary relationship solid. You’re centered in loving each other, you’re communicating great. Now, you’d like to meet poly people and form some more fantastic relationships. SCREECH! How? That’s going to depend on … Continue reading
Am I Ready for Polyamory?
Have you been considering polyamory? Wondering where you want to go with your relationships? Do you wonder if you’re really ready to take the leap? If you’re wondering, that’s good. It means you’re thinking. Mama Java approves of thinking about … Continue reading
The Partner Data File
We all like to do things that make our partners happy. It’s part of the fun of a relationship. A friend of mine is dating a new person. That person’s spouse had kept a file for many years on things … Continue reading