Category Archives: rant
More on Consent
I ran across some utter nimrod spouting the “Consent is HARRRD” whine in a new and gloriously idiotic way. The assertion? “Women like it when a man takes charge, therefore they don’t like being asked for their consent. It turns … Continue reading
How to Teach Your Sons About Consent*
Me: Good morning, son. Pop quiz. What constitutes consent? Son: A clear, unambiguous yes. Me: What does unambiguous mean? Son: Loud and clear with no fudging. Me: Good. Do you know why I am asking you this? Son: Because of … Continue reading
Thoughts on Being Used
Some years ago, I wrote an article called “Being Used.” It was about red flags in relationships, demands and whether or not you had a relationship or were being treated as a commodity. I feel like I neglected to point … Continue reading
It’s Not Polyamory-Specific
I had someone comment that an article I wrote on great polyamory relationships wasn’t poly-specific. I agreed heartily. It wasn’t. You could have used the principles for a great monogamous relationship, a great friendship, or even used some of the … Continue reading
Sex, Orientation and Preference
I was noodling around on the net recently and noticed someone in my way too varied social media sites questioning their sexual orientation and decisions. There was concern about how they’d be perceived. There was concern about present relationships. One … Continue reading
Polyamory and the Honeymoon Period
This is another search term inspired post. One of the advantages of polyamory is that you are always open to that wonderful sensation of the early relationship. God, that honeymoon period is wonderful – everything about your new partner is … Continue reading
A Request of the Polyamory Community
I’d like to make a request of the polyamory community. This isn’t a poly-specific issue, but since polyamory and sexual issues often intersect, I think we’d be some good people to be the example-setters. Can we all, please, stop using … Continue reading
Jurassic Park Secondary
This week’s column is a guest column by Jessica Burde. Ladies, gentlemen and assorted gender identities, today I would like to address one very important point of natural law. Where there is PIV sex, there will be pregnancies. Period, dot, … Continue reading
Just Testing a Feature, Move Along
Playing with blog settings and testing a feature. But, to give it poly-relevant content: It’s about love. Really, no kidding. If you’re having a problem with your partner(s), all of you need to check Rule One again. Rock on.
Jack and Jill
About a year ago I met a man whom I had an immediate connection with (I still to this day cannot explain what made me feel so comfortable with him right off the bat as I am generally a reserved … Continue reading