Category Archives: relationships

Should You Have a Group Marriage?

Should you have a group marriage or multi-adult household? No. Surprised? Really, there’s no reason to be. I do not consider group living The Ideal Way to Live. Oh, yes, it can suit people and and there are many that … Continue reading

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Designated Control Freak

One of the issues that often arise in poly situations — especially in group living is who decides what gets done. Sure, sure, a consensus model works. But have you ever gotten more than two people to happily agree on … Continue reading

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Effective Communication

We talk about communication being important between polyamorous people all the time, and with good reason. It is important. I got to thinking about ways to ensure good communication and came up with the following: Tell the truth This seems … Continue reading

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Relationship Broken, Add More People

Polyamorous literature is full of touching stories of how opening a marriage rekindled a deep and abiding love between the original couple and deepen their relationship. You think I’m gonna sneer, ain’tcha? Nope. I’m not. I think many of those … Continue reading

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It Ain’t Just Polyamory, People!

Back many moons ago when I used to write for PolyFamilies, my spice at the time and I used to muse over the fact that the site would be useful to almost anyone. It was mostly about running a household, … Continue reading

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When You Catch the Unicorn

For all that I often make cracks about couples looking for that bi-chick to move in with them for lives of Perfect Poly Bliss, sometimes you really do find someone who might really want to form a family with a … Continue reading

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Feelings are Not Facts

I follow my intuition, go with my gut, all that. The times I haven’t? Well, things didn’t exactly have what I would call an optimum outcome. Does this mean I think, “Well, I feel this way, so it must be … Continue reading

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The Long-Distance Relationship

Raise your hand if you’ve developed a friendship or a relationship online. Betcha a doughnut that just about everyone reading this has had one. This means a fair whack of you have had that weird beast in your life — … Continue reading

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You Don’t Have to Do It

I’ve been watching on several polyamory boards to see people trying to make themselves okay with being in polyamorous relationships. I’ve seen descriptions of people feeling like their hearts are being ripped out. I’ve seen descriptions of people wanting to … Continue reading

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Front of the hand, back of the hand …

This guest column is by Jenny Ford. Polyamory ain’t all beer and skittles. Like your hand, it has two sides, and they can’t be separated. For every wonderful advantage to being polyamorous, there is a corresponding down side, and some … Continue reading

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