Category Archives: The Polyamory Community
On Being Out
I’m out when it comes to poly. People who know me well know I am. I put my poly writing and stuff on my CV. Plenty of people who read this know my “real name”. Given the US political climate … Continue reading
The Anti-Polyamory Press is at it Again
Why “Open” Marriages Don’t Work. This article is a bit insidious and I find it disturbing. The basic allusion is that anyone who wants to be poly is damaged somehow and might actually have Schizoid Personality Disorder. I deeply disagree … Continue reading
Hobbiton
“Now it is a strange thing, but things that are good to have and days that are good to spend are soon told about, and not much to listen to; while things that are uncomfortable, palpitating, and even gruesome, may make … Continue reading
Secondary Clarity
What with lots of couples going poly and thinking that they can experiment with other people’s hearts as an appropriate safeguard to their own marriage, I’d like to present the following for anyone considering being a secondary in a relationship. … Continue reading
Off-Topic, but Important
I recognize many of my readers have their pet charities and causes. For that, thank you. Anything you do to make the world a better place is a good thing, and I’m always happy to hear stories about it if … Continue reading
The Goddess of Java asks YOU!
I got so many thoughtful and interesting answers to last week’s question, I just had to roll with it again. Thanks for everyone who answered. For those of you who are poly and have had children born into your poly … Continue reading
Universal Principles
The Polyamorous Misanthrope was supposed to be a weekly column. It was for awhile and then I started drying up for topics. Why? Well, as I study polyamory, I see more and more that the advice I give, the lessons … Continue reading
How Do I Meet People?
Okay, either you’re single or you’ve got your primary relationship solid. You’re centered in loving each other, you’re communicating great. Now, you’d like to meet poly people and form some more fantastic relationships. SCREECH! How? That’s going to depend on … Continue reading
Closets
I mentioned in last week’s column that there are legitimate reasons why one might want to keep one’s romantic life quite private. A poly person in the military or any other profession where witchhunts for sexual deviance are likely is … Continue reading
High School Musical Chairs
What is the right action of the larger community when relationship dramas can destabilize and threaten an entire social network? — a very wise friend Pepper Spray. Well, okay, no you can’t do that. But hold that thought a minute. … Continue reading